One Sunday afternoon I was sitting in front of the television, relaxing and watching one of my favorite TV series Game of Thrones.
My significant other interrupts me with an unhappy face and says she wants to talk about our future.
I pause the TV, annoyed, and ask what she wants to talk about. She hands me a copy of the annual property taxes for the house and says I owe half.
Shocked, I take a look at the $1900 bill, set it aside and continue to watch my show. She begins to yell saying “I thought we were part of a team, we should be sharing things and talking about them.”
I angrily pause the TV again and ask her “I thought you told me when I moved in that what I was paying you in rent right now is half of everything owed.” She then goes on and admits she forgot about the tax bill because it’s a yearly thing.
I began to tell her my perspective on the situation. I have been a tenant many times as well as am a landlord myself.
When I sign the lease as a tenant, I give the apartment complex or landlord a security deposit, (which should be returned to me if I don’t trash the place), and I give them the first month’s rent. After that, I owe the same amount in rent each month for as long as I live there.
When I rent housing to a tenant, I ask for a security deposit as well as first month’s rent.
Never has my landlord came to me mid-lease term, handed me a property tax bill and said I owe money for it.
Never have I knocked on the door to a tenant, gave them a property tax bill and said they owe half. To push the point further, I said to her, “I ride in your car with you all the time. Does this mean I owe half of your vehicle registration bill? Or half the car insurance premium?
As you can imagine none of this went over well.
Arguments like these could lead to a breakup.
Rethinking through the scenario, I ask:
Why do we stay with our significant other when things go sour?
In addition to these reasons, one of my favorite books is “Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters.” The book gives great insight to our human nature with attraction. The book suggests that we behave the way we do because of sex.
Sex biologically is intended to ensure we pass our genetic offspring to the next generation.
The fear of ending a relationship with our significant other can negatively influence our biological mechanism revolving around successful reproduction.
Of course, there are many and variables to individual scenarios, but it makes sense from a biological point of view.